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i like birthdays. i like them more for other people but i'm glad we celebrate them. At the heart of it is the opportunity to tell someone "I'm glad that you were born", which is also to say "I'm glad that you're alive." Those are powerful statements. The world would be a different better place if we lived that way, if we said and showed those things, more than once a year.
i hope TWLOHA can be something like that, an attempt to say those things more often, to say that we are thankful for life and stories and certainly yours. i hope that we can be something like a gift, something like a favorite song or some show that you remember, some piece of hope or life or strength to hold against the walls when they feel cracked or falling. i hope we can be a reminder that life is worth fighting for, that your friends and family are worth fighting for, that love and beauty still happen, that change still happens. We'll only ever be part of the process, words on a screen in the middle of the night - i hope they find you like a friend. A t-shirt pulled from one of your drawers early on a tired silent morning - i hope you feel less alone when you look in the mirror. i hope it reminds you of community, that you're part of a bigger thing. i hope it sparks some conversation that brings change like a fire on the coldest night.
You'll need more than us. You'll need more and better. You'll need other people. You'll need people to help you process, people to help you let go, people to help you remember what's true and people to help you forget what's lies. You'll need the stories and advice of people with gray hair or white hair or no hair at all. Don't buy the lie that suggests they have nothing to offer or nothing to say - they were young once too. They are stories still going and they've seen the places you will go. They've been stuck at times as well, just like you and me and everyone.
You'll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else, a living breathing screaming invitation to believe better things.
We're saying the story doesn't end here, that the air in your lungs is there for a reason. Perhaps we're all in the business of better endings, you as much as us, the business of redemption. Yours and mine and all the characters around us, and perhaps that bigger thing. i'll steal from Bono here and tell you that i believe we're far from alone in this, that God's been at this for a long time, this business of buying things back, making things new. If this is starting to sound too Churchy or spiritual, i'll simply say that i believe God gives a shit, about your life, about your story, about your pain. And if those possibilities feel too far or they just sound weird, then rest now and we'll get back to people.
We give a shit.
The darkness wins too often. Broken things build themselves in silence. People feel alone. People give up. People talk about this stuff like it's math or they don't talk about it at all.
So what are we doing? Why this page? Why the shirts? Why did a group of young people put their lives on hold and move to Florida a week ago? Why would they trade everything they know, all their normal comfort and quiet, for a crowded house and endless hours of this word "community"? Why would they want to join a conversation that most people run from?
We're trying to fight for people with kindness, with words that move, with honesty and creativity. We're trying to push back at suicide with compassion, with hope. We're pointing to wisdom, pointing to medicine, saying that hope is real, help is real. We're fighting for our own stories, our own friends and families, our own broken hearts. We're saying there's nothing we can't talk about, nothing off-limits. We're kicking elephants out of living rooms, making room for life.
You. It's about you. This is for you. It's crap unless it moves you, crap unless it connects with your story, meets you in your pain, reminds you of your dreams, reminds you what's possible.
We're still alive, you see. You and i on this night that's never happened before. Spread out across a giant circle, winter on one side and summer on the other, day and night the same. And then it moves and turns and changes. Things are always changing.
We are glad that you were born.
We are glad that you're alive.
Don't give up. Don't give up on your story. Don't give up on the people you love. Hope is real. Love is real. It's all worth fighting for.
Peace to you tonight.
jamie
PS: If you're wondering where the heck this came from, i turned 29 today. It's enough to make you think... : ) Off to meet the boys at Texas Roadhouse. Gonna catch a B.L.O.R.R. show after that.
PS2: You absolutely must see the new Coldplay video for "Life in Technicolor II". Prepare to smile.
PS3: You are officially invited to follow TWLOHA on twitter: twitter.com/twlohaPosted in General by jamie tworkowski
Comments (37)
First off, I want to wish you a very Happy Birthday! Secondly, I want to thank you for writing this. I think many people, including myself, need a constant reminder that we are loved and we all care, that hope, help, and love are all very real things.
Jamie, I am so glad that you were born and here to really get this organization off the ground! Thank you for all that you and your team does for thousands, infact, millions of people across the country. Thank you so much!
1 | Left by Faith | Jan. 26, 2009 at 12:52pm
happy belated birthday :)
& i agree with Faith, thankyou for making this organization, i think its amazing & always gives me and many others hope when we need it most :)
ox
2 | Left by megaan | Jan. 26, 2009 at 1:16pm
Happy belated birthday!
Ironically enough the 24th is my sister's birthday, as well.
3 | Left by Shelby | Jan. 26, 2009 at 3:05pm
I don't think you (or anyone for that matter) will ever know just how much impact those words on a screen or t-shirt from the drawer have meant to me. Happy birthday, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything that you have done to change to world. It's a big, scary world without your work.
4 | Left by Erin | Jan. 26, 2009 at 3:12pm
Thank you for posting this. It seems like I read it right when I needed it.
Thanks again and happy birthday!
5 | Left by Anon | Jan. 26, 2009 at 4:06pm
Happy belated birthday, Jamie. :] Sorry I missed it...
I know that you're constantly thanked for writing blogs such as these, and I guess I want to thank you one more time. It's these things that really keep you striving for the end and a new beginning, you know? It's really difficult to wake up in the morning sometimes, feeling really bad and not knowing why, and then having to sit through an entire day like that. Sometimes getting into bed at night is the best part of my day.
Thanks again. :]
6 | Left by Katy | Jan. 26, 2009 at 4:55pm
happy b-lated birthday!
i was so moved by this that i printed it out and put it with my stuff, maybe to show it to someone in need, someone hurting with some reassurance. I know it gave me that.
thanks
7 | Left by Cassie | Jan. 26, 2009 at 5:34pm
Jamie. I think it's possible that you are an angel in disguise. Those words are exactly what I needed to hear at this moment; the moment I was considering letting it all fall away.
I needed to hear that even though I barely know anyone at TWLOHA, you all are my family and you love me too. And that you give a sh-- about me and my life.
I needed to be reminded that the little things are what matter most- the rainbow after the rain, the life after the death, the hope after the fall. The sunsets, the flowers, the friends, the road trips where you drive for two days straight with your best friends next to you, singing along to music that most people haven't heard and what's more don't care, but brings all the hope in the world to you.
I don't know how to repay you for the life you gave me.
Happy birthday, dude. I hope it's a day that brings change (the good kind) and love and hope.
8 | Left by Hannah | Jan. 26, 2009 at 6:26pm
Happy 29th Birthday Jamie!!!
I love your blog and don't worry you are certainly helping!
Your words provide hope and comfort when and where it is needed most!
9 | Left by a Friend | Jan. 26, 2009 at 6:49pm
Happy Birthday, Jamie. <3
This blog seemed kinda ironic for me, becuase latley, I've been thinking of "giving up". On everything. On love. On hope. On life. And if I've given up on life, than what point is there to live it?
This blog might not have stopped me from the inevitable, but it reminded me that people care. =] Thank you.
10 | Left by Katie | Jan. 27, 2009 at 3:35pm
Happy late birthday jamie!
God bless you! :)
11 | Left by Anon | Jan. 27, 2009 at 7:34pm
HAppy belated birthday! Mine was yesterday and readig this today is what I really needed. Everybody needs to be reminded that they are loved and cared for in this world. I know that it helped me and I too printed it out to read whenever I feel that I have no reason to get up I'm the morning, or when I don't so much as to smile when something good happens. This. This, riht here is what truly helps people like me. And I am truly greatful to be apart of this community.
Amelia Rose
12 | Left by Amelia rose | Jan. 27, 2009 at 8:55pm
I haven't been on in a few days and I came on in search of something to lift my mood, as it's almost 2:30 in the morning, I cannot sleep and I haven't been in the best of moods
And this post, helped alot. It made me feel loved and I think you're a saint for always keeping the reminder that everyone is cared about and loved.
Also happy belated birthday
what also sparked my interest to read this was the fact that the 24th, was my 16th birthday. (:
13 | Left by Alex | Jan. 27, 2009 at 11:22pm
Happy belated birthday, Jamie! I often come on TWLOHA's website when I am feeling low or hopeless, and this post reminded me why I do what I do, and that there is still lots of love and hope out there.
14 | Left by Celestine | Jan. 28, 2009 at 10:10am
i think what yall are doing is amazing.i suffer from major depression and have for years.a cuople of months ago i was sent to River Crest because i was cutting,burning,and starving myself and attempting suicide three times.although i knew the love of god i didnt think i was worthy. My parents had no idea what was going on,and i honestly didnt want them tio because i thought they wouldn love me anymore.Going to River Crest helped me get away even though i hated it there,but then i accepted i needed to be there. for so long i had made up excuses and didnt think i had a problem. But laying there in that empty room i saw on the ceiling someone wrote "your not alone.have faith because god is here and your gonna make it through this,i did."
before then i was so determined to give up,even being at an institution, i was being lazy!
i wanted the pain to go away so bad i was willing to risk everything.
they gave me medicine which made me feel like i was crazy,but i realized i was crazy before for thinking death and physical pain was the answer.
im still dealing with the depression part but haven mutilated myself since November 2008. The thing that has helped keeep my mind off of doing those things is putting god first instead of me. trying my best to do wonders for his kingdom is what has kept me going. although i still sufer from major depression,i know that one day ill be set free from that. God was testing me and still is, so that when i make it through he can say"she is mine,a good and faithful servant" and i know god doesnt put anything in front of us that we cant handle. I know that everything i have been through in my life is just so that i can minister to someone else. My testimony is huge and will do wonders for him, as long as i can stay strong and not give into those bad habits. I refuse to let satan drag me down that deep again.
15 | Left by kasey | Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:10am
I woke up on the 24th and found this blog entry. The 24th being my birthday, i felt alone and a little bit depressed at the thought of time going on and on and things moving along while i felt like i stayed the same. Thank you for writing this.....it saved my day. :)
16 | Left by Hailey | Jan. 28, 2009 at 2:44pm
Well i was having a TERRIBLE DAY until this here.
I believe that you are Mr. Perfect ,amie Tworkoski!
Happy Birthday!
I love you and the TWLOHA organization and i am so getting you a birthday present.
Well maybe not, but what you wrote was amazing. I love you and this organization and the starters, the talkers, the listeners, the lovers, the haters, that readers, the writers, the caretakers, the hopefuls, the background people, the up-close-and-personal people.
Everyone who ever thought, looked at, heard, saw, touched, felt this organazation, this movement.
I keep them in my prayers.
Our story Matters.
My story matters.
E-mail me if you have a problem.
Love is the movement =)
myluvlyoctober@yahoo.com
17 | Left by Taryn | Jan. 28, 2009 at 4:36pm
Happy Birthday Jamie. I just wanted to say that I am so glad that you wrote this blog. I haven't truly enjoyed a birthday in a long time, because I didn't have many people in my life there to tell me happy birthday.
It always seemed like some people didn't care, and sometimes I didn't either. I think when someone tells you happy birthday it means that exactly "I'm happy you're alive." That's why I tell it to myself in the mirror every birthday after I decided to enjoy my life.
That aside....
This is one of the most forthright and powerful blogs I think I've read on here. It was just so honest and refreshing. It was exactly what I needed right now, especially where I am right now. Thank you and have a blessed birthday.
18 | Left by Fleur De Lis | Jan. 28, 2009 at 8:54pm
First, Happy belated Birthday Jamie! Thank you for writing this. When it's my birthday i feel like they're just saying happy birthday for the heck of it and the same when i say it. THis changed my perspectives and how much i relate to this. I needed to hear these words, your words. You truly are an angel. Thank you and God Bless.
19 | Left by your friend | Jan. 29, 2009 at 5:17pm
I love this.
It made my day.
I printed this out and put it on my mirror, your comments.
It makes me feel better when i get up on a tough morning.
I REALLY needed to hear this.
An angel in disguise truly.
I think this was God's words spoken through an 'Earth Angel'.
That sounds a little stupid, but it's true.
I have a shirt, and i have cards with quotes.
I write names of some people on here on my notebooks and my hands from time to time.
I want to intern here when i'm older.
Hopefully it'll still be here when i get to be 18.
I love you all, stay strong for me =)
20 | Left by Taryn | Jan. 29, 2009 at 7:23pm
everytime i read something you write, the world seems a little brighter.
thank you.
and happy late birthday
21 | Left by PJ | Jan. 30, 2009 at 5:10am
Hope. The best four letter word there is. Thanks J, and happy belated birthday. We're all glad you're Alive.
22 | Left by Ashley Stoneback | Jan. 30, 2009 at 7:37am
Happy late birthday Jamie!
Your work inspires so many to see hope and i hope you know what you've done for so many of us out here.
xxxx
23 | Left by Beckie | Feb. 1, 2009 at 5:04am
theres a whole story behind what im about to say that you'll never hear. but you just saved me.
24 | Left by savannah | Feb. 2, 2009 at 10:48am
happy belated birthday jamie~ i hope you had a wonderful day !
thank you so much for writing this. i've been having another one of my chronic episodes, and your words have given me one of the few genuine smiles i've had in the past few days. i don't feel as alone and helpless after reading this.
thank you so much~ i'm so glad there are people like you alive in this world.
25 | Left by Anon | Feb. 2, 2009 at 7:23pm
We're thankful you were born. That you're alive. And that you, Byron and the gang were uniquely gifted to gather people to causes greater than themselves while at the same time letting them know the causes would be exponentially smaller without each person's continuing story. love you guys. Catch ya soon. -bigJohn
26 | Left by bigJohn Scott | Feb. 4, 2009 at 9:54am
I've got a box full of enlish papers written about TWLOHA.
it's inspiring. this movement, this writing. it's something i'll always want to be a part of. the hope, knowing there's more, better.
Happy Belated Birthday :]
27 | Left by Sam | Feb. 5, 2009 at 7:33am
Happy birthday Jamie! Thanks for all you've done.
Hello everyone.
i am looking for someone.
i am 15 in 2009 and im looking for someone to write to. i dont want any girlfriend/boyfriend type thing just someone whose like me.
i understand people. people in general people.
if you know what that means email me with a response. if you don't; please don't.
please if your out there.
happy birthday Jamie.
28 | Left by Charles | Feb. 8, 2009 at 1:40am
Read above:
deathindisguise@live.com
29 | Left by Charles | Feb. 8, 2009 at 1:41am
This came at the right time.
:]
I'm glad that you were born, which is also to say I'm glad that you're alive.
30 | Left by Zach | Feb. 8, 2009 at 7:54pm
Happy Belated Birthday!
I'm extremely glad you were born, and you are alive.
Thank you for writing this.
31 | Left by Sharon Jacobsen | Feb. 10, 2009 at 9:03pm
Happy belated birthday, Jamie! You share the same birthday as my sister and my birthday is the same day as you'll be celebrating Renee's three years, February 24. Knowing that makes me feel even more like I was meant to be rescued from whatever crack I fell in to in my life. It also reminds me that this year is going to be the first birthday in three years where I won't feel lost and alone, and i'm so grateful for that, and I'm even more grateful for people like you, Jamie-people who are out there who want to help others and tell us that the world isn't perfect and life may not be wonderful at times but we can always find a way to make it better and WE can always get better.
My mom learned that I was cutting myself last Thursday when she got my report card in the mail and it wasn't exactly what she was expecting. She told me to tell her what was going on and I told her, and the whole time I was expecting her to yell at me and tell me that my problems aren't that horrible and I'm being stupid and possibly get kicked out of the house. Never in my wildest dreams did I expect her to sit down next to me, listen to what I had to say about everything that was going on, and tell me that she understood and said she would do her best to be there for me and give me a push now and then so I can be the person I was three years ago again. And because I trusted my mom for a split second in my life, I know that I can be ok again if I WANT to be ok and I make the effort to, and everything that Renee talked about makes a whole lot more sense to me now. I couldn't have had that split second of bravery without TWLOHA and the rest of the people in the world going through the same thing right now. Thank you so much Jamie, for bringing all the broken and the healing together, and thank you so much for sharing Renee's story and helping us find our own strength in it.
And also an early congratulations to Renee for being free for three years :)
32 | Left by Charlette | Feb. 10, 2009 at 11:26pm
jamie, you are seriously an inspiration to me and this organization is so awesome, i totally love what you all do, especially considering my past; i created my own hell and now i am looking forward to heaven... thanks for what you are doing and happy late birthday
peace.love.
ben
33 | Left by Benny t | Feb. 11, 2009 at 1:23pm
Hey, where do i give my storie?
34 | Left by kelsie | Feb. 28, 2009 at 3:01pm
Jamie thank God for people like you. Its really late but happy belated birthday. I know that you inspire A LOT of people and I'm so glad that theres people like you, thank you and everyone in TWLOHA for everything. =)
35 | Left by Cindy | Mar. 5, 2009 at 12:23pm
Happy birthdayy : ) ♥
I've been reading all of TWLOHA blogs for a while now. They are so well written, inspirational and say everything I've been meaning to tell myself.
I cut. Not with a razor or knife, but with my nails.
I love reading TWLOHA blogs; but when I do I feel like I'm fake and I'm making a mockery of everything you stand for. I write this in tears. I can't not feel the way I do; the worst is when people see the scars and don't bother to ask if everything's alright. They just assume it is.
I just want an "Is everything alright?"; that's all.
Happy Birthday again.
Thank you for being alive : )
36 | Left by Nicole | Mar. 9, 2009 at 2:40pm
This blog entry is so important to me. Tomorrow's my birthday; I'm turning fourteen. I feel afraid and anxious and sulky. I feel like I'm not ready for my life to start; high school in less than two months, the potential for moving, my dad's job being quite if-y. But I know that with you guys (not to mention God) on my side, I'll be OK. Thank you for that.
37 | Left by Hannah | Jun. 28, 2009 at 8:12pm
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