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  • Nov. 18, 2009 at 1:24pm

    Hey Guys,

    The mtvU Woodie Awards are tonight in NYC, a couple hours from now. Some of my favorite bands are nominated - Death Cab for Cutie, Kings of Leon, Phoenix... Ben Gibbard, Zoey Deschanel, Jack White and Pete Wentz will be in the room... 

    The Woodie Awards are for "artists", which typically means "musicians." Somehow, i'm nominated for the "Good Woodie" award. And since i don't have any songs, it's hard to know how this happened or how it's even allowed. Well, actually, i do know - it's you. It's been our story all along. Your passion, your voice - it's a powerful thing. It can build and move, it can opens doors.

    Just wanted to say thanks. Thanks for voting, but more, thanks for caring. Thanks for helping us invite people to live a better story. Thanks for helping us introduce people to hope and help and to the possibility that they were never meant to live alone. Thanks for helping us push back at the stigma that says depression and addiction are things we can't talk about. 

    TWLOHA is a story that i'm proud to be part of. The best stories are the ones that surprise you and inspire you to change. Thanks for all you do to make ours that sort of story. It's my honor to represent you at the Woodie Awards tonight, to get to be there on behalf of people who struggle and people who care. 

    Since i'm the only nominee who doesn't have any songs, MTV let me pick out the song for my nomination video. i gave it a lot of thought and ended up choosing Switchfoot's "Needle and Haystack Life" from their new album "Hello Hurricane." i'll leave you with a lyric from that song:

    "No, don't let go
    Don't give up hope
    All is forgiven
    You breathe it in
    The highs and lows
    We call it living

    All is not lost
    All is not lost
    Become who you are
    It happens once in a lifetime"

    Peace to you tonight.
    jamie

    PS: You can watch the Woodie Awards on  Friday, December 4 at 10pm EST on MTV, MTV2, mtvU and Palladia.

    Comments (19) | Posted in General, Journal, Music by jamie tworkowski


  • Nov. 8, 2009 at 3:02pm

    We believe in stories. TWLOHA is perhaps a lot of things but among those, it's the story of a story that grew to be something more. Along the way, we've been given the opportunity to talk about things that millions struggle with but few talk about. It's a story of secrets shared and conversations over coffee and why songs matter. We've seen surprising doors open and most importantly, we've seen people find hope and help.

    Another surprising door has opened... We can't reveal all the details but we would like to invite you into it:

    A well-known photographer is taking some pictures next Saturday in New York City. The pictures are for a story that a magazine is doing on TWLOHA. The magazine is a pretty special magazine and it's safe to say that the story is a big one.

    They want to take a picture of me and i asked if i could invite you and they said okay. It's going to happen in Manhattan. We don't know exactly where or what time just yet but we will know those details soon. There's a form you need to fill out if you want to participate in the shoot. If you send an email to nyc@twloha.com, we'll send you the form and we'll send you the info (when/where) as well. 

    Here's the fine print: You don't get paid and your name won't appear in the magazine. But there's a chance you will get to be part of a group photograph that will appear in the magazine.

    Also, we will hang out and we will drink hot chocolate.

    Hope to see you Saturday in NYC. More info soon. Again, nyc@twloha.com is the address to write to if you're interested in being part of the photo shoot.

    Peace to you.

    jamie

    PS / Update: The shoot will take place this Saturday at 12 NOON in Washington Square Park. 

    Comments (15) | Posted in General, Journal by jamie tworkowski


  • Aug. 28, 2009 at 1:35pm

    You are going to move through this.

    More importantly, I love you. YOU ARE GOING TO MOVE THROUGH THIS. 
    Don't be defeated. Submit yourself to the process. You are growing. You are changing. You are doing LIFE. 

    I am not trying to make you feel better. This fucking hurts, and there are no two ways around it.
    But I am trying to encourage you to not retreat. I can't remove the pain, but I am going to hold your hand while it hurts.

    Continue to reach out. You need people right now. 

    I'm here for anything you need.

    You are LOVED in ways you cannot imagine. In ways that don't depend on you. In ways that don't depend on your performance. In ways that cannot be lost. Remember Remember Remember. 

    Love you my friend.

    - Anonymous 

    Comments (224) | Posted in General, Journal by jamie tworkowski


  • Aug. 21, 2009 at 11:04am

    Today was a beautiful day.

    Today I had the pleasure of having conversations that really matter. Sometimes I forget how blessed I am to be part of this movement—that not all organizations value stories to the point that they’ll allow for you to silence your phone, close your laptop and shut your mouth in the middle of a workday to listen and learn from another. I am thankful that in our office we are able to practice what we preach, to listen when needed, and share from the core of our being.

    This morning I got to hear about the passions of a witty Scottish fellow. Our friend Stuart is currently visiting us from Scotland and has big dreams to make our presence in the UK a greater reality, and to impact those who wouldn’t naturally cross paths with To Write Love on Her Arms.

    This afternoon I got to have lunch with my friend Justin. We smiled and laughed, and later shared some about hard realities as we sat behind office desks and wondered about the pain that comes with honesty and figuring out next steps.

    This evening I ended my workday chatting with an author I admire; I was sitting at a desk in Cocoa, FL and he behind one in Portland, OR. It's so rare to read an author's work and also be able to exchange words in real-time. His name is Brian Doyle and he has an art for capturing truth with simple beauty and honesty. Last week I decided to email Jamie one of my favorite pieces of his, “Two Hearts.” I did this because Jamie recently gave each of our interns a copy of Rob Bell’s newest book, Drops Like Stars, as they leave us for summer and return to their communities to continue living out our mission and movement at home.

    Rob’s website says, “It is the difficult and the unexpected, and maybe even the tragic, that opens us up and frees us to see things in new ways. Many of the most significant moments in our lives come not because it all went right but because it all fell apart. Suffering does that. It hurts, but it also creates.”

    Today was a day in believing in stories, in the idea that confession and passion and honesty and forgiveness matter so much, but that questions and pain are a part of this growth process as well, part of the process of creating something new within each of us. And sitting here now, I can’t help but wonder if any of those rich conversations I got to have today has a greater significance.

    Jamie and I wanted to share Brian’s story with you guys… So, take a few minutes to read it, enjoy it, and wrestle with it. Brian shares our belief that stories matter, and encouraged me over the phone that we should all strive to become better listeners and “story catchers” in our daily lives.

    We hope your day feels beautiful.

    Love.
    Kaitlyn


    ---

    Two Hearts

    By Brian Doyle 
from God is Love

    Some months ago my wife delivered twin sons one minute apart. The older is Joseph and the younger is Liam. Joseph is dark and Liam is light. Joseph is healthy and Liam is not. Joseph has a whole heart and Liam has half. This means that Liam will have two major surgeries before he is three years old.

    I have read many pamphlets about Liam's problem. I have watched many doctors' hands drawing red and blue lines on pieces of white paper. They are trying to show me why Liam's heart doesn't work properly. I watch the markers in the doctors' hands. Here comes red, there goes blue. The heart is a railroad station where the trains are switched to different tracks. A normal heart switches trains flawlessly tow billion times in a life; in an abnormal heart, like Liam's, the trains crash and the station crumbles to dust.

    So there are many nights now when I tuck Liam and his wheezing train station under my beard in the blue hours of night and think about his Maker. I would kill the god who sentence him to such awful pain, I would stab him in the heart like he stabbed my son, I would shove my fury in his face like a fist, but I know in my own broken heart that this same god made my magic boys, shaped their apple faces and coyote eyes, put joy in the eager suck of their mouths. So it is that my hands are not clenched in anger but clasped in confused and merry and bitter prayer.

    I talk to God more than I admit, "Why did you break my boy?" I ask.

    I gave you that boy, he says, and his lean brown brother, and the elfin daughter you love so.

    "But you wrote death on his heart," I say.

    I write death on all hearts, he says, just as I write life.

    This is where the conversation always ends and I am left holding the extraordinary awful perfect prayer of my second son, who snores like a seal, who might die tomorrow, who did not die today.


    (A happy update: Brian shared with me that Liam is alive and well today; he’s a healthy 14-year-old!)

    Comments (13) | Posted in Journal by Kaitlyn Suveg


  • Aug. 11, 2009 at 2:16pm

    There is a family headed west on I-10 right now. This is for them...

    Part of it was the place, this Canaveral condo, this house so much a home. i remember sitting with Byron in this living room five years ago, me on the couch and him on the chair across from me, me there and filled with questions, always bringing him my pain, because he would listen, because he was brilliant but more because he cared. i remember him listening for an hour, me talking through my tears... Eventually, in a quiet moment, he shared that he had some news of his own. His girlfriend Amanda was pregnant. They had been close to breaking up but now she was pregnant with his child. i remember not knowing what to say but finally asking how he felt and i remember him saying that people make mistakes but maybe God does not. 

    Isabella Pearl was born some months later, her middle name a picture of redemption. There was no shotgun wedding, no cheap whispered promises... only questions and patience and pain and hope. It was an uncertain season.

    The wedding did eventually come, some more months later, after time apart, after time together, after all their searching. He flies to Boston, they drive to New York, he takes a knee on the Brooklyn Bridge, asks for her forever. On the same trip, he has coffee with a man he respects, a man he's met only once before. Byron talks about his life, this surprising season, the reason he's in town. After an hour together, the man says "i feel like i'm supposed to give you this." The guy hands Byron an envelope, Byron opens it two hours later at the airport. Two thousand dollars. (There are people who invest in stocks and there are people who invest in stories.)

    The wedding came when they were ready, when the promise could be true, for love is a choice much more than it's magic. They moved the couch out of the living room and got married with the sliding glass door open, next to sea and under stars on a New Years Eve. i said a few words, about not knowing who i would be without his friendship. i can't remember if i said it but i hope i said that i believe in their story. 

    Baby Eve is born. Byron takes a job with TWLOHA, first as an assistant, soon as our Director of Operations. He shines. It's hard to tell his life from his work from his dreams. i mean that in the best way. We rent a bungalow. Interns begin to arrive. They watch football at his house. They eat dinner at his house. Baby Eden is born.

    i could say other things, that we ended up on different pages for a time, that i am difficult to work for, that i am not the healthiest person. It's hard to navigate the waters of ego, pain and pride. It's hard to have a single honest relationship - easier to say "community" from a stage, easier to be busy than known. We hurt each other. We let each other down.

    Some weeks go by. Weeks with silence. We're both offended. He decides it's time to move on. He quits a good job in an economy where people don't quit jobs, where people don't make choices because they believe in them, because they live one time and want to do it well...

    He and i are fine now. Time has a way of putting things back where they belong. Love has a way of breaking the silence. There is a bigger story...

    And so a new chapter, this family headed north and west today, to make a home in New Orleans. To give themselves to a city as it comes back to life, to raise the girls in a place filled with history and poverty and diversity, to be part of a bigger story.  Byron is going back to school. His is that brilliant mind that will never stop asking questions, never stop learning. There is not a lot of money, not a certain plan. Oh and Amanda is pregnant again. ("You're kidding me" and "No way" have been common responses.)

    We said goodbye last night. This is the guy who introduced me to my favorite band, the guy who taught me it was okay to ask the questions you aren't supposed to ask, to say the honest thing, to be creative. He suggested that there are things more valuable than money, that maybe people matter most. He talked about the value of a place, a good idea, something true inside a moment or a song... 

    It crossed my mind to play it cool. i cried about it last week, broke down in front of a room full of people - our entire team and even some strangers - it would be easier not to cry. Besides, everyone else said their goodbyes without crying. i'm 29 years old. i should have my shit together by now. i should be able to say goodbye without crying. i should be able not to need people.

    Or maybe this is okay, maybe this is the way that i was made, to feel things, to say things. i don't know. i just know that i started to walk away and then i stopped. And we've been down this road enough, done enough life together, that neither one of us had to say anything. 

    He told me once that he believed friendship might be life's greatest gift. What an amazing thing to feel known and loved, to feel understood, to walk through life with another person. i remember that it all felt true when he said it and i know that it has stayed with me. 

    i eventually told him through tears that he will leave a great space, that things won't be the same, that he can't be replaced. He said the words meant a lot, because it's something we can't tell ourselves, what we mean to other people. We hope we do but it's powerful to hear it, significant to hear it. 

    i forget which one of us said it first but we have agreed and said for years now that there are things in life worth crying about. (We added to this list: things worth screaming about, questions worth asking, trips worth taking...) It was true last night and i suppose it's true in this moment. 

    i don't have a magical ending except to say that i hope you get to experience this sort of friendship, this gift that Byron talked about, this thing that's like a miracle. i hope you get to say these things and hear these things. i hope you get front row seats for a story as good as Byron and Amanda's. And part of me hopes, for you and for myself, that you get to live that sort of story. 

    New Orleans is a better place today.

    Peace to you.
    jamie

    PS: New Music from our friends:
    Beggars by Thrice (iTunes only)
    Spain by Between the Trees
    The Rising by David Hodges (iTunes only)

    i am currently full-blown obsessed with these two songs: 
    Along the Wall by Leigh Nash
    In Exile by Thrice

    Comments (16) | Posted in General, Journal by jamie tworkowski


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