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  • Nov. 27, 2008 at 9:04pm

    Just wanted to say a quick hello and Happy Thanksgiving. It's an interesting day where families get together and we're invited to consider the things for which we're thankful. i suppose this holiday, like pretty much every holiday, can look and feel a lot of different ways. In some homes, i imagine it's epic and people stand and share aloud the things they're thankful for. For others, it might just be a lot of football on television and conversations that stick close to the surface. Maybe it's a day you love and look forward to, an easy day. Maybe it's a difficult day, rooms filled with elephants, things left unsaid or people simply missing... 

    No matter which version sounds familiar, i think there's something powerful about taking a day or even some fraction of a day and pausing to consider that we have some things to be thankful for. Because if we're not careful, we start to buy the lies... We start to believe that we have nothing or that we are nothing or that we're alone. Shame creeps in and tells us that we're stuck, that we're too far gone, that our family is broken beyond repair...

    Maybe Thanksgiving is a chance to remember that which is true, and to say it in the face of the lies. i think it's important to remember that the story isn't over, that there are things worth fighting for and living for, that beauty still happens and love still happens. Hope and redemption as well. 

    Take a moment tonight and consider these things. 
    What do you have to be thankful for? 
    Who do you love? 
    Who loves you? 
    Who needs you? 
    What are your dreams? 
    What's worth fighting for? 
    What's worth running after? 


    Consider the air in your lungs. It will be gone one day, and these chapters will close. If i had to guess, i would say you're early in your story. There is still a lot of time for hope to happen, for change to find you, for love and beauty and truth and songs you haven't even heard yet. 

    Take a moment tonight and remember the best of your story. And if it feels like there's too many ugly pages, then please know that you are free to be honest, that you were meant to be honest, that we all need that - we need people and places where we can say those things, where we can begin to understand, where we can begin to let go... It's okay to be honest. 

    i've been obsessed with The Fray's new single "You Found Me" for the last week, playing it for everyone, making them listen. i think it's the honesty... The song is basically a conversation with God, the things you're not supposed to say: 

    Guy runs into God and asks Him where the heck He's been. 

    God says "Ask anything."

    He asks "Where were you when everything was falling apart?"

    i am full-blown in love with the bridge, beyond explanation. All i know is that it's been moving some things around in me. He sings this with urgency:
    "Early morning, the city breaks, i've been calling for years and years and years and years and you never left me no messages, you never sent me no letters. You've got some kind of nerve..."

    Whoa. You're not supposed to talk to God like that... right?

    Or maybe God can handle it. Maybe God can handle my pain and my questions. Maybe God would prefer the most honest version of me. 

    i'm not sure what you believe about God, or conversations with God... Perhaps that's a separate conversation. i guess i'm just writing to say that it's okay to be honest, that pain shouldn't stay silent. Questions shouldn't stay silent. We need to say these things out loud. Perhaps hope or healing or even faith, perhaps it begins there, with honesty.

    This week i was reminded that i am thankful for the fact that it's okay to be honest, that maybe change starts there. 

    Happy Thanksgiving.
    Peace to you tonight, from Byron's living room, which is currently filled with life.
    : )
    jamie 


    PS: We'll have some more info Monday or Tuesday... Wanted to share this for now:

    Posted in General by jamie tworkowski

Comments (19)

Dear Jamie,
Thank you so much for that.
My thanksgiving was filled has happiness
but a slight sadness as well.

I loved the song.
I looked it up.
God has been so good to me.
I wish I had this song when I was going through
an incredibly hard time in my life.
I use to think I was nothing
and I had nothing to live for,
but I am reminded everyday that
that is not true!
This blog reminded me of that.
I had a really hard night last night,
and blog shows me that God is still there
and that yes, He can handle my pain.

Thank you
and God Bless,
Erin

1 | Left by Erin Hotchkiss | Nov. 28, 2008 at 8:00am


Jamie,
There are so many things i could say. I've grown up in a christian home, my pops is a retired preacher. It's hard to be strong in my faith. Being a preacher's grandkid, pgk, isn't always easy. I've turned my back on god before. I've never admitted that to anyone before though. I've doubted him more than once. I thank god every day for blessing me with friends that keep me going. When i first heard this song, i related it a lot to my life and what i've been through. I like in the blog were you put that i'm probably still young in my story. It's true. I am, i still have a lot to face and i'm glad i have God in my life to help me through. I wanna think you so much for takin the time to write this blog.
Oh, my thanksgiving was great. There were some people missed, but we move on and remember their presence. Once again thanks.
Love and prayers,
*Kayla♥

2 | Left by Kayla | Nov. 28, 2008 at 10:25am


Jamie,
I loved your article. It really spoke to me. I wasn't looking forward to this thanksgiving because it marked 7 years of my grandfathers car crash that lead to his death. From the day of his death i have attemped suicide 12 time, got an eating discorder,became depressed, and then i started cutting. I was only 7 when my grandfather died now i am 14 and i still can't let go. And not being able to let go is still making me want to die. Right now i am in a program for all of my prombles. But just the other day i found myself asking the same question you asked.
What do you have to be thankful for?
I have clothes, food, a house, a church, friends, a family that care, music, TWLOHA, and sisters.
Who do you love?
Katie, Ansley, Nick, Kenneth, Alexandria, Bren, Ben, Elizabeth, Coco, Grandmommy, mom, dad, mimi, roscoe, oreo, Jordan, Ashley, Caitlin, Sara Grace, Alison, Sydney, John John, dad, blake, laura, and everyone who loves me and helps me.
Who loves you?
My family, Katie, Ansley, Nick:), Jordan, Ashley, Caitlin, Kenneth, and people who are my friends online.
Who needs you?
Katie, Ansley and Nick:)
What are your dreams?
To be some sort of artist.
What's worth fighting for?
Love, Peace, Friends, Family, and what you believe in.
What's worth running after?
Love, a friend, and dreams

So i might have a reason to live but when will i finally feel as if i do?
As i keep fighting with depression i hope to find this answer. TWLOHA is amazing and i love you guys so much. You are part of the reason i am her today. Thanks! Skyler :)

3 | Left by Skyler | Nov. 28, 2008 at 2:57pm


Holy moley-I saw that picture of Florida and freaked. Orlando's only two hours away from me. I want to go. But I know my parents won't let me. = Man I could use that too...

4 | Left by Katelyn | Nov. 29, 2008 at 5:15pm


I read the blog but i just figure it out. How do I know if people really care about me? many people have told me that they care but then they end up telling me they just felt bad for me. I do know that i love my friends but how do i know they really care about me? And i have many dreams. like the dream to live my life and to get far in music. i don't like fighting tho but i would say i fight for all of the broken souls out there. i believe that my only reason for living now is to help the broken. i know i should be the one getting help but whenever i try they make me feel worse... wht should i do?

5 | Left by Amanda Jones | Nov. 30, 2008 at 4:54pm


thanks Jamie. I am so thankful for TWLOHA. it has given me a purpose, even on the days when i feel hopeless and worthless. it helps me to always remember that there are others out there who have dealt with the effects of self injury, depression, suicide... and they need someone who understands, someone who can relate and empathize.
My story is just beginning, but without TWLOHA, i wouldve dropped my pen and walked away before the best part had even been written. Thank you. Thank you for holding my pen to the page when all i wanted to do was let go for good. God is changing the world with this movement. It's definately changed me.

6 | Left by savannah | Nov. 30, 2008 at 5:25pm


Dear Jamie;
Tahnk you.
For everything.
Your words make me think every time I hear them. You make me want to tell my mom everything, even though it's hard.
My best friend and sister cut, then she told her parents and they got her into rehab; but the reason she told them is because I had the strength from you to push her to stop.
Thank you so much.
I really hope you and the team will come to Colorado some day to talk and spread the music.
I'm coming to Warped this summer (but I can't go to any concerts.. hmm..) and I talked to one of the interns about maybe volunteering for up to four dates.
Thanks again, and I hope to see you soon.
Love is the movement,
Emma Hayes,
Fort Collins, CO

7 | Left by Emma Hayes | Nov. 30, 2008 at 5:49pm


What do you have to be thankful for? My parents, my brother, my friends, school, my cats, the privleges I'm fortunate enough to be granted with, life, air, God, opportunity, a functional mind, belief, my church, the past, the present, the future, laughter, tears, smiles, yesterday, today, tomorrow, life, Heaven, and strength.
Who do you love? God, My Mommy, My Daddy, My Brother, My friends, the people I pass in the hall, on the street, the healed, and the broken.
Who loves you? God.
Who needs you? ...
What are your dreams? To write, inspire, create, dream, fight for what's right, love, live, and spread the message.
What's worth fighting for? What I believe justice is found in. And your right to fight for what you find justice in.
What's worth running after? God.

8 | Left by Hannah | Nov. 30, 2008 at 9:05pm


just wanted to send a little note to say that my frequent thoughts, smiles, and many heartbeats are with TWLOHA and the message of hope going around. Love is a reality. A solid unalterable objective reality. So is redemption.

9 | Left by Joely | Dec. 1, 2008 at 1:00pm


What do you have to be thankful for?-Next to nothing... the things that are supposedly taken for granted are only painful in themselves. For many reasons the negatives just block out all the positives. Although music sticks out there..
Who do you love?-Stephanie-the only one thats been there for me, loved me, saved me.God- No one may know, but youre always by my side.
Who loves you?-I dont know. God loves me but i cant see why, because he loves everyone i suppose. Stephanie does even though i only hurt her.
Who needs you?-Needs or wants? Needs, my friends and family only for the sake of their own consciense.Wants, no one... no one.
What are your dreams?-To be able to break free of this heavy wet blaket thats hanging over me, and share the music inside.
What's worth fighting for?-Stephanie...music...other people.
Whats worth running after?-Why I'm here.

10 | Left by Isaib Mas | Dec. 3, 2008 at 5:05pm


Isaib Mas you are so sweet!

What do you have to be thankful for?- Sam, my friends, my family... I woke up this morning.
Who do you love?- Sam.You are always there for me. Luv ya amore.
Who loves you?-Sam, family.
Who needs you?-Sam
What are your dreams?- I gave up on them.
What's worth fighting for?-Sam, myself
Whats worth running after?-I stopped chasing him.

11 | Left by Stephanie | Dec. 3, 2008 at 6:08pm



What do you have to be thankful for?
very little
Who do you love?
lindsey jones
Who loves you?
no 1
Who needs you?
nobody
What are your dreams?
nightmares
What's worth fighting for?
now....nothing.
What's worth running after? my music.... but that duznt help n e more


if u read this pls contact me... i want to live for sumthing. and every day i am loosing rezons to live. i dont want to die but the only way i feel alive is when i cut. i want help and have tryed but nothing works. pls help me!

12 | Left by jeremy | Dec. 4, 2008 at 9:06am


SORRY, FORGOT TO LEAVE CONTAICT INFO.
jtmoney777@gmail.com

13 | Left by JEREMY | Dec. 4, 2008 at 9:11am


I'll 20 years old january 3rd. Tonight i stay awake to think about everything that has gone wrong to right and right to wrong in my life. Every holiday there always a fight a big fight, my family does not act like family we act like Animals we all fight for our own food, happens always on thanksgiving and christmas. Thanks giving was the last time i cut and did drugs. i still try drink a lot.

like Renee I've been actin for 6 years and no one knows a thing about what i do and have done. i cant talk to anyone not my friends or anyone else thats part of my "life".
Thats why TWLOHA means a lot to mean, because i can talk to all of you and i just want to say THANKS for being here. I'm glad we all can try to help each other.
Good night guys, or should i say early morning.
TWLOHA

14 | Left by Ashley | Dec. 7, 2008 at 11:18pm


Dear Writer Of This Card,
i understand how you feel. because i feel the saem way.
but Jamie brings up a good point. this is for the broken, lead by the broken. we are just as much of an example as anyone. be strong. we are all here for you.

15 | Left by Kasey | Dec. 11, 2008 at 8:51pm


Jamie-
Thank you, for posting such inspiring blogs.
I've been in a bad way myself, and while this may have been posted well after the Thanksgiving Holiday, it feels like something has been restored- a sense of hope and revival.
It's nice to know, through your words and through this entire movement, that none of us are alone.
It's always be a comfort for that to be consistent.
You've inspired me to transform myself, from the fragile trouble stricken girl I was two years ago, before I even heard of this project, to a person who's built a sense of realization within herself. Someone, who wants their story to continue in the way it should have years back. Someone who wants to instill the same hope in others that you have instilled for all of us.
I appreciate everything you've done and today,
I walk the halls of a low key school in New Jersey, wearing my TWLOHA shirt, along with two other kids in the school, proudly supporting all that you do.
Thank you, Jamie.
Happy Holidays.

16 | Left by Kaylene | Dec. 16, 2008 at 7:18am


i just want to thank TWLOHA for helping save my friend from depression and probably suicide. She told me about this and i didnt get it but now i get it, so thank you to everyone for supporting all these people, you guys are awesome. God bless

17 | Left by grace | Dec. 23, 2008 at 12:05pm


What do you have to be thankful for? Kristen, God, Family; Basically, I'm privaleged with a lot of things, that, a lot of people right now, are not (mainly due to financial crisis, divorce, etc.).
Who do you love? This girl, my family, my dog, my music [thank god for music].
Who loves you? Leaving this blank.
Who needs you? " "
What are your dreams? Becoming a novelist/lyricist/actor, finding that perfect girl.
What's worth fighting for? That girl, my family.
What's worth running after? " "

18 | Left by Eric | Dec. 26, 2008 at 6:55pm


Words cannot express what this movement is doing, and I believe this is just the beginning. Personally, I have been through a lot of strife and heart ache. Alcohol, drugs, addiction, depression. I've hit rock bottom, later to realize I was 6 feet under.But as long as hope prevails, not all is lost. The darkness cannot prevent the light, the flickering of a sole matchstick in the darkest cave. I have hope in my healing heart,a faint smile on this face that has overflown with tears, I cry until I laugh. TWLOHA has been a haven for me as it has been for many people. We are coming together to say we are not alone, we can make it through together.
We were loved even before we knew we needed to be loved.

19 | Left by Priscilla | Jan. 15, 2009 at 6:40pm

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